It’s about connection

Sobriety. Community. Relationships. 

How the Idea was Born

One of the co-founders went through the 12-step program. After completing it he asked his counselor “what is the 13th step?” She said it’s connection, and community. 

He found himself getting involved with community events such as beach volleyball but other than word  of mouth, had to spend a lot of time weeding through websites that sometimes had sober events but commonly were mingled in with cocktail parties and the like. 

When ready to start dating he went down the modern path to connect – dating apps. While on the dating apps he knew the often uncomfortable conversation about sobriety would have to come up, which got him thinking about the need for sober people to meet others outside of their meetings. 

“What if there was a dating app for people in recovery that would directly address the elephant in the room?” 

“What if there was an app for sober people to find more than romantic relationships – fun and friendship?”

He started shopping the idea with friends also in  recovery and solidified the need was real, and that’s how the 13th Step was born. 

Knowing the name had a similar connotation to “Netflix and chill”, we thought, that’s fun! And that’s what this is all about, a welcoming, judgement free group of people seeking to enjoy life, develop quality friendships and maybe even find love.

We Have One Thing in Common

Everyone is unique, yet on the 13th Step you start with one commonality – sobriety.

We Value Anonymity

You can set your distance as far as you like if you want to keep your meeting life and social or dating life separate. The 13th-step is a community that is free of judgement. 

We are About Community

We want anyone who is sober to be able to feel a sense of belonging and quality connection through friendships and fun. This community is also intended to provide an emotionally secure environment supporting those looking for romantic connection.

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Free (View ONLY)

$5 / EVENT

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$10 / Month

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$20 / Month

$50 / 3-Months